The Sound Relationship House Theory is a metaphor, developed by John and Julie Gottman, to explain what it takes to build a strong relationship. Like building a house, relationships need a firm foundation. The foundation for strong relationships is to build Love Maps of one another’s world;to learn what is important to one another.
Couples need to share Fondness and Admiration with one another; to tell each other what they want, like and appreciate. Everyone wants to believe that their partner cares about them and that they are more important than anything else in the world. We believe that we are important to our partners when they notice that we need them; when they are willing to stop the world to pay attention to us when we need it.